"THE FEAR THAT YOU ARE NO LONGER ABLE TO CHANGE"Alazia (Ancient Greek: Ἀλαζία) - a city of ancient Mysia near the River Odrysses, which flows out of Lake Dascylitis from the west through the plain of Mygdonia and empties into the Rhyndacus ( Wikipedia ) OR It can be an abstract noun depicting an emotion that had no "name" in the English language until John Koenig came along and coined his "Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows" . If Webster can do it , he can too. Do step into this portal , its a whole new world of words and makes you think ! www.thedictionaryofobscuresorrows.com/words ⚡ALAZIA⚡ When you were born, you could have been anybody. So quick and malleable, your parents could look at your face and see a future president. They tried to mold you as you grew, but they could only work with what they had. And when their tools stopped working, they gradually handed them off to you, asking, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” There’s a certain art to becoming who you are. There’s no standard kit you can use to assemble yourself, swapping out parts as needed. Instead, it feels more like a kind of stretching, a teasing out at the edges, like a glassblower standing at the furnace. A teenage personality is a delicate medium, its emotions almost too heavy to handle. You had to figure out a way to keep yourself together and tease out the good parts without falling out of balance or stretching yourself too thin. You couldn’t stop everything to try to fix your flaws, but you couldn’t just ignore them either. Luckily, you were nothing if not flexible, softened by the heat of youth, which kept you warm on a dingy couch or a night in the wilderness. You knew that you weren’t just you, you were also the person you would one day become. So even when you failed, you could still be whatever you wanted to be. As long as you kept moving. Inevitably you got hit, and you got hurt. You prided yourself on how well you absorbed the blow, bouncing back as if nothing had happened. But the pain changed you, in little chips and cracks that might take you years to notice. Over time you learned how to position yourself in very specific ways, protecting the most vulnerable parts of your psyche, even as you knew they were still a crucial part of the real you. Gradually you became more and more reluctant to move from that position. Growing a little harder, a little more brittle. Greek αλλάζω (allázo), to change + dysplasia, abnormal development of tissue. Pronounced “uh- ley-zhuh” or “ah-ley-zee-uh.” www.thedictionaryofobscuresorrows.com/concept/alazia
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DIMINISH - To make or become less , Cause to seem less impressive or valuable ..... says the dictionary.
How does this apply to us from the perspective of people's auras and their effect on us in daily living ? Diminishers see people as objects to be used, not as persons to know and care for. “Diminishers are so into themselves, they make others feel insignificant… If they learn one thing about you, they proceed to make a series of assumptions about who you must be.” Diminishers fit well into today’s mainstream culture, which elevates striving for ourselves. While at the opposite end , we have “illuminators” . Those who are curious and want to know others. “They shine the brightness of their care on people and make them feel bigger, deeper, respected, and lit up,” says Brooks. They meet us more than half way and fill a deep need we all have , to be seen. They are the opposite of “diminishers.” Do you illuminate or diminish people? - The Aspen Institute Concept taken from David Brooks and his book - How to know a Person The Art of Conversation: Are You an Illuminator or a Diminisher? – 100.7 Riverland Life FM I would go on to say that "diminishers" have a poor sense of self , and hence shine a weak light on their surroundings . Added to that , they might even blame their hazy surroundings ! For the longest time i thought i did not understand "toxicity" , but life has taught me well into my 50's. Having to deal with negative emotions on a regular basis from those closest can be quite draining. Is so-and-so really at fault ? Really the cause of your pain ? Or is he just a willing and polite crutch holding up the curtain of your anger and self-confusion , knowing full well that if he were to move away , you might come tumbling down and hurt yourself badly. Who then is the rightful diminisher , and who then the illuminator in this complex web of life ? “The true purpose of tidying is not to cut down on your possessions or declutter your space,” says Marie. “The ultimate goal is to spark joy every day and lead a joyful life.” That goal — that inner why — can help guide everything that we do, and it expands well beyond the home. This is what Marie calls kurashi. |
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