BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT EQUALS KINDNESS

Love is Measured By the Benefit of the Doubt: The Secret to True Kindness  by Nir Ayal 

The Secret to True Kindness (nirandfar.com)
.......  The closer you are to someone, the more likely you’ll be to see their mistakes as well-intentioned mess-ups rather than attempts to hurt you. Seminal marriage research has shown that for happy couples, the benefit of the doubt flows abundantly in both directions. For example, if you’re in a strong marriage and your spouse fails to press “start” on the dishwasher, you’ll assume they just forgot. This assumption of positive intent promotes an atmosphere of kindness. In a disastrous marriage, however, you’d ascribe the worst intentions to your spouse: they ignored the dishwasher on purpose, just to irritate me. This assumption of negative intent promotes an atmosphere of aggression ......